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I think it is the same with self-development. It doesn't happen overnight. It takes time for one to understand and then embody everything.
A lot of those who meditate do so to change old habits, patterns of thinking and behavior.
Today, a friend commented, "She's been meditating for the longest time and yet she hasn't changed".
I think some people need longer time to work on their sankaras (patterns) than others. They may have gone through tougher situations. Going back to the cooking analogy, a carrot will take a longer time to soften than a malunggay leaf. Some souls simply need longer simmering time than others.
I told my friend , "Let her be. Let's give her the space that she needs."
Expectations will never ever help anyone move forward. As they say, a watched pot never boils.