Thursday, June 20, 2019

Why do we love heroes?


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We love watching them or reading about them.  We are fascinated with The Avengers, Superman, Batman, Spiderman.

Truth be told, most of these heroes are human like us.  They just have extra abilities.    

I figured, we like them because there is a part of us which resonates with them. 

Heroes are good

If we really look deep inside, whether we accept it or not, our core is good.  The folly lies in believing that we are just humans.  We forget that we are also beings (hence the term human beings).  And this is where our extra factor lies, much like the added capabilities of the heroes.  If we examine this being, this spirit, this psyche, this soul- we will find out that our original blueprint consists of the beautiful qualities of peace, power, purity, love, happiness, compassion, and truth.  If we talk, walk, and move while holding these qualities in our awareness, then our actions and interactions will be of a higher notch- of hero caliber even.

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Heroes fight

Heroes fully understand that they will have to battle with different obstacles and villains.  In the same way, at this time in the world’s drama, no one can be exempt from defeat, sorrow, and difficulties.  These things will really come our way whether we like or not.  When we confront the chaos of our inner and outer worlds with the power of peace, inner strength, purity, love, happiness, compassion, and truth- we become our own heroes!

Heroes fight.  They fly or smash or jump or slash.  These are the very tactics we ought to use when facing our problems-  fly above it,  smash it into pieces,  jump towards it and slash it from behind.  Heroes do not hide in a nook and cry when the war is upon them.  They muster all the courage and strength they have and take on the enemies head on.

A confession

“There's a hero if you look inside your heart.  You don’t have to be afraid of what you are.”, says a popular song.

I completely agree with that.  For years, I have been afraid to show what I am really capable of.  You see, I was bullied for being different.  Sometimes, people around me couldn’t  accept that I’m bigger than the small box they put me in and so they push me down.  Often, I would stand out like a sore thumb when I step into my power that I felt excluded.

It's easier to blend in and follow the majority.  There’s more security in walking down the more travelled road or staying in my comfort zone.  There’s no drama if I don’t challenge the system or the status quo.     

Recently I asked a senior yogi, “Why do people push me down when I step into my power?”

She said, “Well, that is how it is in most parts of the world.  In the Philippines, you call it crab mentality.  In Australia and Poland, it’s called the tall poppy syndrome.”

“But you see, it shouldn’t dissuade you from living your truth”,  she encouraged.

She went on and recited this quote by Marianne Williamson to me.  

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. 
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. 
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? 
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
 Your playing small does not serve the world. 
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. 
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
 It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. 
And as we let our own light shine, 
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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“Do you know why I know this quote by heart?”,  she asked.

“It's because I have to repeat it to myself over and over again to keep me grounded.”,  she explained.  

I just nodded but in my head I was reciting, 

"Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.”

Do you play small too?  Or have you decided to step into your power?
           
I think we love heroes because they remind us of our true nature. There is a hero spirit is in each one of us.  We just have to nudge it to come forward- despite our fears and insecurities.




Tuesday, May 14, 2019

Kalma lang, Pilipinas!


photo from SpecialAchievers

I scrolled my facebook news feed today and I saw that there’s a general discontent with the election results.  

Some of my friends even want to migrate!  It’s that bad.

I completely understand my friends’ lament.  

The good guys lost.  Many traditional politicians won.  I heard some of the leaders elected lack even the basic qualification to apply for a saleslady’s job.  

It’s that bad. 

“What will happen to our country now?”, asked one friend.

Here’s my fearless prediction.  


image from onewithnow

We will go on.  Just as we have moved on even from the fiercest storms. 

We will hold these elected leaders accountable.  We will be vigilant that they do what they promised and that they use the funds entrusted to them appropriately.

We will not rely on our leaders though.  We will solve the problems in our community with ingenuity and the "bayanihan" spirit we know so well.


image from verywellmind

What makes me so optimistic you asked?

I’ve been in the field of community development in the last 4 years.  I want to incite change so bad I decreased my clinic hours and I used my own money to help out (and I’m not rich). 

I don’t want to crow.  It's just that I feel restless if I don’t do anything when I have an antidote to a problem.  So, more than anything, it’s really for me- for my peace of mind. 

Recently, I met people like me.  

These people can’t stand still and just watch the world go dark.  They are not politicians.  They are social entrepreneurs whose businesses have a social and/or environmental mission.  

I want you to meet them, too.

Pamela Mejia is the founder of Phinix, a brand which upcycles old clothes into high quality shoes & bags and employs persons with disability and local shoe & bag artisans.    

DC De Castro of DC De Castro Designs makes custom street style and urban "citywear" pieces. Recently, he has decided to go into the sustainable fashion route in the hopes of minimizing textile waste in our planet.


Prince Ventura is the founder of Wear Forward, a fashion recommerce and social enterprise which promotes circular fashion and collaborative consumption through swapping, lending, selling, and donating pre-loved and upcycled clothes and accessories.


Joy Gomez of Joy of Marketing helps start-ups scale while breaking the marketing myth that scaling needs a HUGE marketing budget.

Bianca Gregorio is the founder of Re Clothing, a sustainable clothing brand which aims to give secondhand clothing a new life and bring back the connection we had with our clothes and its makers through transparency and creativity.



Vannah Pacis of Maud & Virginia Atelier seeks to provide women beyond retiring age and out of school youth an alternative livelihood by training and employing them to sew.  


Sheila Mae Fuentes is the founder of Forth Co., an online platform for sustainable fashion selections in the Philippines.




Marianne Sobierra of ThreadStory designs clothes which are both versatile and functional, uses reclaimed fabrics and employs home-based mothers from Taytay Rizal.

Carissa Torres is the founder of Wear Monono, a brand which gives garments a second life.  She sells locally sourced vintage, thrifted, and secondhand clothing items.



Jean Abijay of Love, Iloy, uses locally sourced organic silk and cotton in making children's wear.  The artisans of this enterprise are single mothers in Tramo and mothers in the Visayan region.


Jamie Naval of Ten Twenty Kids promotes creativity and sustainability to kids by creating and educating. She transforms textile wastes into educational toys and materials.

Maurice Ondoy is the founder of SOLELead Tribal Footwear, a social enterprise which upcycles scrap vehicle tires and turns it into high value products such as footwear by incorporating it with Mindanao’s authentic tribal textiles.

Danica Ranola of Sewstain incorporates used clothes to reclaimed fabrics to produce a unique design per clothing.  She also wants to bridge the gap of the different social classes through collaboration.



Camille Albarracin is the founder of Gree-ne-las, a greener alternative footwear which aims to contribute to the zero-waste solution as products are 99% compostable. Every purchase of gree-ne-las provides a sustainable enterprise to the various sectors of the marginalized communities in Bicol and Metro Manila.


Ina Morales is the founder of A•Co, or Accessories in Collaboration, an aspiring social enterprise with the women of Brgy. Culiat, Quezon City.  A•Co's pieces are handcrafted by women artisans using recycled materials such as clothing scraps, plastic bottles, or tin cans. 


Jessa Mae Visaya of Matter Dem recycles old denim jeans into bags to help the environment and reach out to the community.







Paula Pioquinto-Dimaano of Piesa creates 

accessories which  celebrates all facets of a woman.  

All their pieces are handmade and proudly crafted in the 

Philippines by college students.






Krizia Jimenez is a purveyor of intricately designed and thoughtfully curated fashion and accessories.  She produces pieces which are sophisticated, street, and strong while practicing slow fashion and small production.





In my NGO work, I also met generous individuals and organizations who just want to give- without expecting anything      in return.


Martin Sy is an art director and brand strategist who provides probono marketing consultancy to non-government organizations.  







Lei Mitchen Sta Maria is part of the core team of Child’s Pose Yoga Project, a nonprofit organization which aims to create sustainable change in children through yoga, sports, and life skills.






Annah Margarita Montesa spends her time developing health and safety programs for workers.  She also uses her network to connect organizations and companies to social causes.





The Association of Philippine Medical Colleges – Student Network (APMCSN) is an assembly of Philippine medical students which promotes an active role for students in the development of medical education. 




Child Haus provides a temporary shelter for children with cancer and their caregivers who are seeking treatment in Manila.  


These are just a few.  There are a lot of individuals and organizations changing the playing field and shaking the ground.  

There is hope.

Kalma lang, Pilipinas!  



meditation by Release Your Wings













Thursday, March 28, 2019

"I roasted a bully today!"

image from periodicotiempo

"I roasted a bully today!", Darla exclaimed excitedly as she entered the play area.  

"How?", I calmly asked her.

"She told me that anything that comes out of my mouth is trash.", she answered.  "I said her name! Bam! Roasted!!!"

"Wow! You did roast her.", I gently affirmed her.

But I what I really wanted to tell her was...

Dear Little Girl,

You are awesome!

Please continue believing in yourself even when the odds are against you.  Always remember this moment and keep the memory of all your wins inside your pocket so you can easily go back to it when the dark clouds pass by and life seems to trouble you.   

You are brave!

You didn't buckle down when your monster stood in front of you.  You were so small compared to your opponent but it didn't make you cower in the shadows.  Instead, you were quick on your feet and retaliated wisely with your words.  Remember to always lead with your heart- that's the seat of courage.  

You are strong!

I am not talking about brute strength but of that strength which comes from within and keeps you grounded even when situations shake you.  Always remember to draw on that strength when life gets topsy turvy and uncertain.

Always stand on your truth, dear. Even when you grow up, please remember...

You are awesome!

You are brave!

You are strong!

Remember.

                                                                                                                                                                             Love,
                                                                      Teacher Karen


P.S.  I love Darla's story.  Children are so natural.  It's so easy for them to stand on their truth.  

P.P.S.  If you want to rediscover this childlike part of you which is awesome, brave and strong, I'd like to invite you to a workshop I am facilitating this Saturday, 4:00-6:00pm at Brahma Kumaris, Quezon City. Please register here.



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Monday, March 4, 2019

“Don’t take sorrow”


image from google


“Don’t take sorrow.”, says my Teacher.

“I can’t understand.”, I retort back.

You see, I was angry.

I know it’s not very om.  However, recently I learned that it’s best to acknowledge my feelings (tell myself that it’s ok to feel what I feel) and then release it.  So, I will say it again.  I was angry.

image from verywellfamily.com

There’s this person who nitpicks everything I do and tells me over and over again that I can’t do anything right.

I am on the move and this other person blocks my path every single time I inch forward.

I am accomplishing things which I never thought I am capable of.  And another one disregards it and says, “But you forgot this!”. (And it’s really negligible. Aaaaargh!!!)

I was so mad (at so many different people…3 to be exact) that I wish I can wave a magic wand and make them vanish in thin air.

image from google

And then, I checked in myself like I normally do and I saw that I wasn’t really mad at them.

I realized that I still have issues with self-worth and they were merely showing me how I treat myself (at times).
  
The project I’m working on has successfully finished and I scramble to plan for the next run instead of celebrating or taking a pause.

I am an arms-length away from getting the funding I need and yet I stall.

At the back of my head, I still hear a whisper, “You don’t deserve it”.

I am mad at the people whom I feel belittles me because they show me that I don’t believe in myself as much as I think I do.

I guess this is my next challenge: Believing in Myself.

image from google

Are you angry at someone too?

More often than not, if you check in with yourself you will see that that person is merely showing you your hurts, limiting beliefs, negative patterns or your monsters.


P.S.  If you need healing, this workshop in Quezon City, Philippines might be of help.  Register here. Or you can learn how to meditate online.