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"When someone sticks on your back like a monkey you may shout at them- at least in your mind," says my spiritual adviser from the West.
"You see, there are some people who cling on too tightly to you. They take it upon themselves to monitor your every move and tell you how to live your life. You can tell them, "Go to Hell!", she explains.
"Seriously? How about harmony?", I ask.
"How about your sanity?", she counters.
"When you say yes to everyone and allow people to control you, you give up your power. You give up your peace. You're not even in harmony with yourself".
"Ok, you give in to the desires of others so they're ok with you. But, if it doesn't resonate with who you are and what you truly want, then it causes an internal discord.", she continues.
"What do I have to do?", I asks.
"You have to learn to defend yourself. I use a mantra as a weapon to sticky people who hang on to me like a leech. In my mind, I shout at them, "Go to hell!", she replies.
"You see, I can't find another word strong enough so they can let me be.", she elucidates.
Sensing that I'm still not convinced she adds, "You can't be too calm, you'll be trampled on. You have to be strong, too."
"It is balance that you seek, right?," she asks.
"Then, you should know when to accommodate people and when to say, Go to Hell!", she advises.
I really tried my darnest to utter the words but I really can't. For now all I could say is, "I will fight!"